Idk, English isn’t my native language so it’s kind of hard for me to talk about connotations of English words. I wouldn’t use the word in my language that “fuck” directly translates to - interestingly tho, it’s not used as a swear word in my language - but English words never seem as harsh to me as the words of my language does.
No, it just shows that misogyny take many forms: in Greece, as lesbophobia and the celebration of gay MEN, in todays society as homophobia towards any homosexual. And it doesn’t make it “less of an issue”, it just means that since misogyny is the original problem, that is what we need to get rid of to also get rid of homophobia - since homophobia stems from misogyny, it’s impossible to remove homophobia while keeping misogyny, but there would be no reason to be homophobic unless you are also a misogynist.
I know plenty of straight women who think they’re having “great sex” until they actually start telling their boyfriends that “maybe I could get off sometime too” or “maybe you should start giving me some head”. Then they know what I’m talking about when I’m like “????????” when they say “oh a cuddle is just as good as sex”. Anyway… I’m sure PIV will survive the fall of patriarchy, and contrary to popular belief, I’m not here to ban or prohibit PIV, and before people start coming here with accusations like that I just wanna say this: I’m not a PIV police, I’m not your mom, I have no authority whatsoever over your sex life, and maybe you should question why you feel so goddamn upset at what I’m about to say (maybe it’s just because PIV isn’t that great after all, or maybe you are, deep down, aware of its effects on you, or maybe it’s just that you can’t handle a random womans online opinion - I don’t care, just don’t come to me whining about it). That said, PIV is an act of oppression because of the power imbalances in heterosexual relationships. Women are oppressed, men are not. The penis is used as a weapon in patriarchy, and that changes what happens during a heterosexual intercourse and homosexual sex where both partners are equal on at least a sex based axis.
PIV is also contributing to the spreading of STIs, unwanted pregnancies, preeclampsia, infections, UTIs, selective abortions of female fetuses, overpopulation and the subjugation of women. Its other misogynistic component is that it’s mostly for men - I mean, seriously, where is the clitoris located again???, and 72% of women can’t get an orgasm through PIV but about 99,9% of men can, so who does it benefit? It’s also seen as THE sex act - when people ask you how you lost your virginity, are they asking when you first had oral sex? No, they’re not. They’re asking when you first had PIV. When you go to a gynecologist, and they ask you when you last had sex, they’re not talking about when you fingered someone the last time, they’re asking when you had PIV. Why is PIV the standard sex act, that is more REAL than any other form of sex? It’s because it benefits men. Individual women might think PIV is the greatest thing that ever happen to them, and like, cool for you! Doesn’t change the fact that most women hardly enjoy it, never get off and feel pressured into having it.
Yes, the modern transactivism and liberal/qu*er-feminism is very gender conservative and supports the idea of brain sex. Incredibly misogynistic and counterproductive for women’s rights and transpersons alike.
No, your gender doesn’t determine your interests and your interests doesn’t determine your gender.
Personality. That’s the word you’re looking for, personality.
Your personality dictates what you like to do, your clothing preferences, your feelings, etc. and vice versa.
Yes, you are a female because you have female sexual traits. No, that doesn’t say shit about who you are as a person, just as your eye-color doesn’t say anything about who you are, just as your blood-type doesn’t say anything about wether you like to play games or not, it just is. I will never understand how this is a hard concept to grasp.
Gender, on the other hand, dictates what you should like to do and be, based on your sex (that is, female). Gender is a set of stereotypes and behaviour that is forced upon us since day fucking one of our lives, and it’s not something you get to choose. Gender is a hierarchy, with the dominant masculinity and the subservient femininity. The purpose is to reinforce male domination of women and girls. This is also why gender differs in culture and time, based on what is deemed as good and powerful (assigned masculine) and weak and bad (assigned feminine) at the time. The color pink, for example, was regarded as a bold masculine color less than 100 years ago whereas blue was a soft and feminine color. I don’t think I need to explain how pink is gendered today.
You don’t have a gender. You have a personality, which is great, but you do not have a gender and neither does anyone else. Your sex doesn’t dictate your interests and preferences. The purpose of gender is to dictate your interests and preferences based on sex. The purpose of the gender hierarchy (not a spectrum, where each gender is equal, it is a hierarchy with men and masculinity on top and women and femininity on the bottom) is to uphold male dominance above women.
More privilege than who, men? No, definitely not. More privilege than non-western women? Sure, but that’s also completely depending on what race they are and what socioeconomic status they are, whether or not they have disabilities, etc.
They might get more diplomas, that only makes it more despicable that men has the vast majority of high paid jobs. The diplomas themselves aren’t a privilege when they’re hard-earned and doesn’t give you a job anyway.
Also that lesbianism had lower status than both male homosexuality and heterosexuality.
Straight privilege isn’t nearly as beneficial for straight women as it is for straight men. Straight women are in very close proximity to their oppressor, AND the likelihood of being the victim
of domestic and sexual violence, despite the preferential treatment they get from society. Male privilege is unconditional and is given to every gender conforming man in existence without downsides - being straight has a LOT of downsides for women; not on a societal level, but on an individual one.
And what proof do you have that straight privilege is top privilege and not male? Where do you think homophobia stems from? I think it comes from misogyny; gay men being seen as less masculine and more like women than straight men (as femininity as a concept includes sleeping with men), and lesbians are targets because men are not a priority or even of mild interest to a lesbian - men don’t have access to lesbians. Straight women hates lesbians because they think we’re predatory and want to “turn them” (ie that we are like men in womens bodies).
So, I think that straight privilege is an extension of male privilege since it benefits men the most, because there would be no reason to be against homosexuality if it wasn’t for heterosexuality being a compulsory institution that favors men. “Proving” a hypothesis like that is about as easy as proving the opposite is right, so either you agree with the ideas or you don’t, different people draw different conclusions from the same facts and I’m not here to convince you, I’m here to provide a radical feminists answer to your questions.
Yes, there is a hierarchy of privilege. Yes, male privilege rank at the top. I wouldn’t think a gay working class black man is more privileged than a straight upper class white woman, but while all things you’re oppressed for intersects, he is still privileged for being a man, and she still suffers female oppression. The fact that he’s oppressed in all other factors that she isn’t doesn’t change the fact that he has male privilege. The sum of your privileges doesn’t take away the axis on which you are oppressed.
…I’m a lesbian.
The patriarchy makes them so. The patriarchy is, however, upheld mostly by men, so apparently they want to keep it that way.
Yes, we’re gender abolitionists. Seems like you’re confusing gender with sex. Sex is biological - xx chromosomes, ovaries, the whole shebang. That, we have no beef with.
This is gender: http://www.who.int/topics/gender/en/
THAT’S what we want to abolish.
You know what? I’m not from the US, and people in my country are like “USA is such a misogynistic, patriarchal country. But in our country, everything is equal!” (it isn’t, it’s just free from most religion).
You can’t see what’s right in front of you. The patriarchy is like the Matrix, and radical feminism is the red pill. Everything from house wives, domestic violence, rape, femicide, gender roles and selective abortions is the patriarchy in action. It’s not a secret government, it’s all around us, all the time, inescapable. We were all born into bondage, and that includes the western world, even if the problems might be worse in other places - but watch out for that thought, because that thought is not far away from the thought “I’m not like them, this good white western country isn’t like those barbaric brown countries far away that still enslaves their women”.
The point of feminism is to abolish and dismantle the patriarchy, and liberate the people. No gender, no class, no masters, no hierarchies - to live in peace, freedom and happiness. That’s the point.