Sep 27, 2014
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Anonymous asked: A massive thank-you to Pi & Vixen & anyone else who worked on this site. I've been a voracious reader of radfem stuff for the last 9-10 months and I'm hooked! I'm just not too sure what to do about it. I've started trying to develop a radical feminist practice and I'm trying to figure out how best to agitate other males to do the same. This is just a huge thank-you to the effort you've put in to answering serious questions and for having to deal with all the hurtful crap. -follower0457

thank you (and everyone else!) for sending such warming words! We really appreciate them!

We have considered taking in additional admins, we have kept all those who have volunteered (THANK YOU!) and we will hopefully get back to you soon! Pi is away on a longer trip, so nothing will happen for the nearest few weeks or so until she gets back.

This blogging pause has caused the hate anons to drop significantly, even the redditors have cooled down. So maybe we will get back to normal again once Pi is back.

I am going on a trip as well, although only for a week. I’m hoping to get back to answering questions once I’m back, so if you all got something you’re wondering about, please do send them nd I’ll get to it ASAP.

Also, we’d like to remind askers about the FAQ, we’ve gotten quite a few asks about US specific questions that we cannot answer, and some that probably not even US people could answer unless they live in your immediate area. So please keep this in mind! As much as we’d like to help you form and find organisations in your town, it’s very hard for us to do so from here.

Have a lovely weekend and see you soon,

- Vixen

Sep 12, 2014
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Anonymous asked: have you considered taking on any new admins to deal with that mess?

We have, but we’d like to have personal contact with each other and not just as random tumblr strangers. Me and Pi know each other IRL and talk and write to each other through mediums that aren’t tumblr, which is pretty much required for a good communication.

However, if there are radfems here interested in dealing with shit for no pay, write to us off-anon! But the initial warning is that you will receive rape and death threats, and it (along with similar anons) will take a toll on you after a while. You are of course free to leave whenever you want.

- Vixen

Sep 12, 2014
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If you are wondering why there’s been so little content on here recently, it’s because these are the kinds of asks we get, and I promise you, these are among the least… Bothersome. Others have been rape threats, even more pathetic trolling attempts, and just random WTF shit. There are still a few valid questions in the heap of shit that is our inbox right now (slowly deleting the crap, instantly deleting the threats and disgusting messages), but neither of us feel like dealing with this much longer. Apologies to those who wait and have waited a long time now for an answer.
Pi is on indefinite hiatus again, and I am considering doing the same.
Another possibility is renaming this blog to why-feminism-is-needed and just publish these kind of asks without comment.
Nah, askaradfem will still be here and the inbox will still be checked. But until we actually get asks that aren’t from butthurt redditors, hetero PIV-criers and other creepy crawlers, don’t expect much new content. We will still probably occasionally post an ask from now on.
Thank you for reading and thank you to all of you who sent us great and thought-provoking asks, support and nice messages. We didn’t publish most of the support and nice messages because we liked seeing them in the inbox every time. :)
- Vixen

If you are wondering why there’s been so little content on here recently, it’s because these are the kinds of asks we get, and I promise you, these are among the least… Bothersome. Others have been rape threats, even more pathetic trolling attempts, and just random WTF shit. There are still a few valid questions in the heap of shit that is our inbox right now (slowly deleting the crap, instantly deleting the threats and disgusting messages), but neither of us feel like dealing with this much longer. Apologies to those who wait and have waited a long time now for an answer.

Pi is on indefinite hiatus again, and I am considering doing the same.

Another possibility is renaming this blog to why-feminism-is-needed and just publish these kind of asks without comment.

Nah, askaradfem will still be here and the inbox will still be checked. But until we actually get asks that aren’t from butthurt redditors, hetero PIV-criers and other creepy crawlers, don’t expect much new content. We will still probably occasionally post an ask from now on.

Thank you for reading and thank you to all of you who sent us great and thought-provoking asks, support and nice messages. We didn’t publish most of the support and nice messages because we liked seeing them in the inbox every time. :)

- Vixen

Sep 12, 2014
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dingdongyouarewrong asked: (2/2) Cis women will also never be the subject of transphobic attacks like trans women will be (and like trans men will be, but that's not the point of the discussion). Additionally, the way you treat the issue makes it seem as if you think only cis women have cis privilege, which of course isn't the case, as cis men have it too. No one is oppressing us for being women when they bring up cis privilege, as it's not an exclusively female thing. I'm not sure you understand how privilege works.

Nobody has “cis privilege”. There’s male privilege and female subjugation, and while trans men can aquire male privilege through transition and assimilated trans women become subjugated like women post-transition, they still have the entirety of a life time living as male, which has given them a lifetime of internalized male privilege.

So, I’d say trans women are actually privileged over women in that sense.

And with that answer, I’m continuing my long break from tumblr; I may never be back even so you can yell at air for all I care.

- Pi

Sep 12, 2014
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dingdongyouarewrong asked: "You cannot be simultaneously oppressed and privileged for the same reason." No, you can't, and you aren't. Cis women are oppressed for being women, sure, but are privileged for being cis. Two different things. The fact is that a trans woman will have experiences that a cis woman won't, for example being forced out of women's spaces despite being women, being treated as an exotic fetish, and being outed and violently attacked. (1/2)

Okay, then I assume you agree that trans women have male privilege? They were brought up as boys and many live half their lives as men, it makes sense.

- Pi

Sep 12, 2014
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Anonymous asked: Following the logic regarding PIV sex... what happens when a transwoman puts her penis in a transman's vagina? Is that misandry?

It’s literally the exact same thing. Nothing changes because of an identity/delusion in your head.

Sep 11, 2014
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Anonymous asked: If porn and prostitution are so good for capitalism, why are sex workers so shamed for what they do? Doesn't that shame entail they are not acting in accordance with capitalism and the dominant culture's values?

Shamed. Shamed… Really, being shamed is one of the smaller problems prostitutes face. They are literally reduced to goods to be bought and sold, they are the wares, the objects. Does that not concern you the least?

They are shamed because they do not adhere to some males view that women must be sexually pure. Those same males can also be buying women because males lack empathy, conscience and consistency apparently.

- Vixen

Sep 2, 2014
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Anonymous asked: Wait, so let me get this straight. Because PIV sex is capable of leading to unwanted pregnancies, STIs, and selective female abortions, it is therefore not right? By that logic, why aren't needles bad? They can lead to disease, collapsed veins, and heroin overdose.

God am I tired of the butthurt feelings caused when women aren’t fully embracing PIV and the surrounding culture as angelic and without fault.

And wtf, yes, needles are kinda considered bad?? You usually don’t get into contact with syringes and such unless there’s a fricking medical need for it. Or drug addiction. Both cases not the most positive situations you can be in. It’s not like people go “oh, I would love to have a couple of random needles up my arm right now, that’s so fun and great!”

Why don’t you take that critical thinking you have about needles and apply it to PIV.

- Vixen

Aug 30, 2014
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Anonymous asked: was anecdotally wondering the other day about the word fuck: if it does mean intercourse/PIV (originally at least), and that today PIV's mostly rape, and at least always very harmful for women, wouldn't it be somewhat symbolically (and "culturally") problematic to use that very word in emphatic, or even more, in insulting expressions? (just in case: not at all a personal attack or anything, everybody's using it, me included so far, was just wondering, radfemly speaking, how it could be judged)

Idk, English isn’t my native language so it’s kind of hard for me to talk about connotations of English words. I wouldn’t use the word in my language that “fuck” directly translates to - interestingly tho, it’s not used as a swear word in my language - but English words never seem as harsh to me as the words of my language does.

- Pi

Aug 30, 2014
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Anonymous asked: im not well versed on everything about capitalism but i do know that without dismantling capitalism, we'll just have rich women and poor women. we'll have rich women who can treat poorer women badly and hire them to work for menial pay and they have less access to their rights. the fact that there are poor women in this world means we are not free. there's an age-old protest chant that says ''all of us. or none''. either all women in the world are free from subjugation or none of us are free

Completely agree.

- Pi

Aug 30, 2014
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Anonymous asked: addition to your answer about diplomas: studies usually create a big debt, especially in amerika, that the student has to pay off with their first wages when they are not a rich enough person. women being composing the majority of poor and unemployed and underpaid people, this creates the most perfect conditions for women to be forced by misogynistic circumstances to enter en masse into the prostitution system. legally "freeing" women without destroying patriarchy will achieve nothing but that.

^

Aug 30, 2014
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Anonymous asked: The Greece example goes against the idea that homophobia is rooted in misogyny: if it was, then Greece would have been homophobic as a result of it being misogynistic but evidently it wasn't. Also, I don't understand how whether some oppression is 'rooted' in another oppressions means it's less of an issue?

No, it just shows that misogyny take many forms: in Greece, as lesbophobia and the celebration of gay MEN, in todays society as homophobia towards any homosexual. And it doesn’t make it “less of an issue”, it just means that since misogyny is the original problem, that is what we need to get rid of to also get rid of homophobia - since homophobia stems from misogyny, it’s impossible to remove homophobia while keeping misogyny, but there would be no reason to be homophobic unless you are also a misogynist.

- Pi

Aug 29, 2014
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Anonymous asked: Is PIV always misogynistic? I mean, I enjoy it. A lot. I never thought of it as an act of misogyny, but my sister is a radfem and she insists that I'm allowing my own oppression by having (great) sex with my fiance, and I just don't understand why.

I know plenty of straight women who think they’re having “great sex” until they actually start telling their boyfriends that “maybe I could get off sometime too” or “maybe you should start giving me some head”. Then they know what I’m talking about when I’m like “????????” when they say “oh a cuddle is just as good as sex”. Anyway… I’m sure PIV will survive the fall of patriarchy, and contrary to popular belief, I’m not here to ban or prohibit PIV, and before people start coming here with accusations like that I just wanna say this: I’m not a PIV police, I’m not your mom, I have no authority whatsoever over your sex life, and maybe you should question why you feel so goddamn upset at what I’m about to say (maybe it’s just because PIV isn’t that great after all, or maybe you are, deep down, aware of its effects on you, or maybe it’s just that you can’t handle a random womans online opinion - I don’t care, just don’t come to me whining about it). That said, PIV is an act of oppression because of the power imbalances in heterosexual relationships. Women are oppressed, men are not. The penis is used as a weapon in patriarchy, and that changes what happens during a heterosexual intercourse and homosexual sex where both partners are equal on at least a sex based axis.

PIV is also contributing to the spreading of STIs, unwanted pregnancies, preeclampsia, infections, UTIs, selective abortions of female fetuses, overpopulation and the subjugation of women. Its other misogynistic component is that it’s mostly for men - I mean, seriously, where is the clitoris located again???, and 72% of women can’t get an orgasm through PIV but about 99,9% of men can, so who does it benefit? It’s also seen as THE sex act - when people ask you how you lost your virginity, are they asking when you first had oral sex? No, they’re not. They’re asking when you first had PIV. When you go to a gynecologist, and they ask you when you last had sex, they’re not talking about when you fingered someone the last time, they’re asking when you had PIV. Why is PIV the standard sex act, that is more REAL than any other form of sex? It’s because it benefits men. Individual women might think PIV is the greatest thing that ever happen to them, and like, cool for you! Doesn’t change the fact that most women hardly enjoy it, never get off and feel pressured into having it.

- Pi

Aug 29, 2014
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Anonymous asked: "If my gender is determined by my interests, video games, feelings and clothing then who is anyone else to say that I'm just female bc I have a vulva?" that's basically saying something are for girls and some are for boys and that gender nonconformity = transsexualism.

Yes, the modern transactivism and liberal/qu*er-feminism is very gender conservative and supports the idea of brain sex. Incredibly misogynistic and counterproductive for women’s rights and transpersons alike.

- Vixen

Aug 28, 2014
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cispeoplesmellbad asked: So here's what I don't get. Most people accept that racism is more than the dictionary definition (racism = prejudice + power now) so why are you still using the WHO's definition of gender? If my gender is determined by my interests, video games, feelings and clothing then who is anyone else to say that I'm just female bc I have a vulva? I'm more than just female, that is uncreative and basic to me. Cis is like the Tutorial Level of gender tbh

No, your gender doesn’t determine your interests and your interests doesn’t determine your gender.

Personality. That’s the word you’re looking for, personality.

Your personality dictates what you like to do, your clothing preferences, your feelings, etc. and vice versa.

Yes, you are a female because you have female sexual traits. No, that doesn’t say shit about who you are as a person, just as your eye-color doesn’t say anything about who you are, just as your blood-type doesn’t say anything about wether you like to play games or not, it just is. I will never understand how this is a hard concept to grasp.

Gender, on the other hand, dictates what you should like to do and be, based on your sex (that is, female). Gender is a set of stereotypes and behaviour that is forced upon us since day fucking one of our lives, and it’s not something you get to choose. Gender is a hierarchy, with the dominant masculinity and the subservient femininity. The purpose is to reinforce male domination of women and girls. This is also why gender differs in culture and time, based on what is deemed as good and powerful (assigned masculine) and weak and bad (assigned feminine) at the time. The color pink, for example, was regarded as a bold masculine color less than 100 years ago whereas blue was a soft and feminine color. I don’t think I need to explain how pink is gendered today.

You don’t have a gender. You have a personality, which is great, but you do not have a gender and neither does anyone else. Your sex doesn’t dictate your interests and preferences. The purpose of gender is to dictate your interests and preferences based on sex. The purpose of the gender hierarchy (not a spectrum, where each gender is equal, it is a hierarchy with men and masculinity on top and women and femininity on the bottom) is to uphold male dominance above women.

- Vixen

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