Jul 31, 2014
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luckyelizabeth asked: "Because your fancy little internal identity doesn’t mean squat to how others perceive you -> raise you." - But your internal identity is completely dependent on how people raise you, because people very easily identify differences in children from a young age and treat them accordingly (often, negatively) if they don't adhere to what they believe to be the norm. I am interested as to how you can receive a privilege if people perceive you as being different and not deserving of that privilege.

"Feminine" boys face discrimination because of misogyny (they remind people of women). Being feminine doesn’t make you a woman, and woman is not an identity. The identity of a child isn’t what makes him subjected to discrimination because he’s feminine; misogyny is. Women aren’t oppressed because they identify as women, they are oppressed because they are women. Identifying as a woman when you are a man doesn’t matter unless other people think you really are a woman, or they think you want to be a woman (which stems from misogyny + homophobia).

- Pi

Jul 31, 2014
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Anonymous asked: "Masculinity is violent, void of emotions other than anger, sense of entitlement towards other humans and nature, domination, selfishness and power-hunger" you wrote. Should we then place the blame for this squarely on the shoulders of mothers, who have in the past and continue to provide the key role in the early formative childhood years? Are you saying that they routinely raise their sons to be monsters and their daughters to be kindly, submissive slaves to the patriarchy?

Were you raised in a room only your mom visited for 20 years? No? Well, most people aren’t, and so they are influenced by AN ENTIRE SOCIETY and not just their moms.

- Pi

Jul 31, 2014
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Anonymous asked: I'm a white male from the upper class. I live in the northeast, went to a private single sex high school, and attend an elite university, at which I am a member of a fraternity. I enjoy penis-in-vagina sex with my girlfriend. And yet, I keep coming back to this site and I can't believe how much I agree with everything you write. How can I fix things? Has my life gone too far and cannot be salvaged? What would you say to someone who wants to support radfem but seemingly has no chance to?

Well, since you have such a privileged stand in society, start spreading the word to your frat buddies. People will listen to you, use that to your advantage (NOT to speak over women - only to speak to other white, heterosexual, privileged men like yourself). Going to an elite uni makes you able to get a good job in the future, use it to promote the hiring and education of women, or better yet - stand aside a let women take your place in the world. Ask the man hiring you why he doesn’t hire a woman instead of you. Ask him if the women in your workplace earn as much as you do. Step up in class when you notice how women are silenced. Use your voice for something good because people listen to it. Hire women of color for your company after school instead of white men. And stop having PIV sex with your girlfriend.

- Pi

Jul 31, 2014
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Anonymous asked: What do radical feminists feel are the limitations of liberal feminism? Like why is it not enough to be a liberal feminist?

Because liberal feminism doesn’t actually change anything, it just changes “feminism” to fit into patriarchy better.

- Pi

Jul 31, 2014
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Anonymous asked: isn't there more to violence than male socialosation? like, white supremacy?

Yes, white supremacy, male socialization, heterosexism, speciecism, ableism, it all comes together.

- Pi

Jul 31, 2014
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omgallthecupcakes asked: I'm confused about the radfem stance on genderweird people. I am genderweird and proud (also a bit sissy/sparkly/kinky and extraqueer/kinkgender) and generally the terms I see with radical feminism are just male/female and occasionally dysphoria is discussed. Where do we stand in the radical feminism worldview? Thanks in advance!

According to the WHO, gender means “the socially constructed roles, behaviour, activities and attributes that a particular society considers appropriate for men and women”. Gender, in other words, is the same thing as gender roles. We are gender abolitionists. Gender has never done anything good for women, it exists solely to oppress and subjugate women - that is its entire purpose.

We think your identity is a made up mockery of womens struggles and that you should re-consider that identity entirely, because “genderweird” is about the stupidest thing I’ve heard of since “demisexual”.

When we talk about male and female, we don’t talk about identities, we talk about biological men and women. XY and XX, penises, vaginas, those kinds of men and women, not the “kinkgender” (what the everloving fuck is that even) stuff. Biological reality, not some made up internal sense of “gender” that you’re privileged enough to choose and that shits on all the women of the world who can’t identify out of their oppression.

- Pi

Jul 31, 2014
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luckyelizabeth asked: Q2. You say that "white, heterosexual, able, non-poor men have never faced any form of oppression". Does this count (and in addition, do these men still possess what you call automatic male privilege) if they are a physical or sexual abuse survivor?

You have to learn how to make a difference between societal, systemic oppression and what you’re talking about. In some cases, personal abuse is also systemic as it is when it happens to women, because it happens to women because they are women - men aren’t beaten because they are men, they’re not abused because of “misandry”, but women are abused because of misogyny. This doesn’t mean that it isn’t horrible when men are abused - it is horrible, it is vile, it should never happen, but it isn’t systemic.

- Pi

Jul 31, 2014
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Anonymous asked: [not a question] RE: Radfems wearing makeup: It's extremely difficult for, for example, a lot of black/woc radfems to give up wearing makeup. I feel as if it's eurocentric to ignore the dynamics in beauty. I'm an unemployed black radfem who is actively seeking employment and I often the need to straighten my hair/wear weaves. It's a part of survival and decolonizing has been a process for me. It's easy for white women to reject makeup because they are considered beautiful by default.

Thanks for this message! I always clearly state in my answers that what is done for survival (such as employment) isn’t “unfeminist”. Wearing make up is never a feminist act, but there’s a difference in stating that truth and not seeing that women sometimes have to wear it for survival or even because of social pressure (hell, I do it myself, I like to think I make up for it by not shaving) which I hope we do.

And yes, white women are undoubtedly favored when it comes to beauty standards, which is very important to recognize. And it’s global, I think that’s important - there is bleaching cream in places where white people doesn’t exist. I’ll forward your message to the rest of the mods, we always strive to do better.

- Pi

Jul 31, 2014
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Anonymous asked: Okay, go easy on me here, I am new to this whole thing but...I notice that "rad feminism" puts the male's color into the equation. I honestly do not see how one's race affects how they act/treat you etc. The dude being white, or any race for that matter, should have nothing to do with his overall behavior, should it?

It shoudn’t, but it does. Of course it affects how you act. Same as male socialization makes you act like a man, being raised white makes you act white. I mean, you must agree that there are at the very least racial stereotypes, yes? Where do you think those came from? Do you think it’s innate that white people can’t dance?

The color of your skin doesn’t make you automatically behave a certain way; you weren’t born with traits that matches your skin color. But white people are privileged their whole lives for being white, and that affects how you act and live in the world.

Here's some examples of how white people and black people in the US are treated completely differently. If you are treated better than someone else your whole life, you will act like you are better, because you will believe that you are - even if you don't realize it yourself.

- Pi

Jul 30, 2014
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Anonymous asked: What do radfems think about the terms "butch" and "femme". I've seen some radfems say those labels go against their politics, and some say they embrace those terms. What do you think?

That’s not really related to radical feminist theory. That’s lesbian community related.

- Vixen

I think it is radical feminist related, since it’s been discussed a lot in the community and many radical feminists are lesbians. I’ve seen what you’re saying too anon, and I would like to offer my own opinion (that doesn’t speak for all radfems, or lesbians): I think that comparing butch and femme to men and women, which is essentially what you’re doing when you say it goes against your politics because it’s often based on seeing the butch/femme relationship as mimicking a traditional heterosexual relationship - a butch/femme relationship is nothing like a heterosexual relationship. Two women are in a butch/femme relationship. If you think it’s like a heterosexual relationship, you should examine why you think butch women are like men. Confront your lesbophobia.

- Pi

Jul 30, 2014
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luckyelizabeth asked: Q. How can a trans woman be "raised with male privilege" before transitioning if they never identified as male?

Because your fancy little internal identity doesn’t mean squat to how others perceive you -> raise you. I could have identified as a moon rock ever since I was a little baby, yet everyone in my surrounding would still see me as - and treat me as - a girl. And thus I receive a girl’s socialization.

- Vixen

Jul 30, 2014
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Anonymous asked: i'm new to radical feminism, and i'm really loving what i'm learning and its such a breath of fresh air and rationality in comparison to the "fun" liberal feminism i was surrounded by. i noticed a lot of radfems wear a lot of makeup and some wear heels and are fashion/consumer conscientious. in my mind this goes against some of the tenets of radical feminism, do they not?

Yes they do. However, we’re only humans and just as susceptible to the feminine socialization as any other woman, and the consequences for deviating from the feminine role may be too big for some women to handle. The personal goal should be to try eliminating as much as possible of your feminine role and support other women who do it as well.

It’s always important to critically analyze the decisions you make and not stop at “but it’s my choice!” or “it empowers me!” - if you ever see a radfem claiming such, they’re most likely not familiar with radical feminism at all and only wants to claim the label of being a radical as in “cool” or “extreme”.

- Vixen

Jul 29, 2014
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Anonymous asked: How can radfems date and sleep with men while still maintaining their political stance? (This is a serious question, not an accusation.)

Because dating and sleeping with men doesn’t change their politics..?

What differs is the need for radfem women (all hetero-paired women really) is that they need to keep in mind the benefits they’ll receive/problems they’ll avoid for doing this above women who aren’t dating men.

- Vixen

Jul 29, 2014
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Anonymous asked: You believe that gender does not exist except as a social construct, but I read that lesbian women are drawn to each other because of intrinsic female personality traits (not physical attraction alone). Does that not imply that there are specific characteristics of the brain and its hormonal environment that separate females from males as well as gross anatomy? Are you really suggesting that in a genderless society, these differences would not be discernible?

What specifically were those “intrinsic female personality traits”? Empathy? Non-stunted emotions? Caring? A sense of responsibility? Qualities of a good human being? Cause that’s really what separates the two genders: Masculinity is violent, void of emotions other than anger, sense of entitlement towards other humans and nature, domination, selfishness and power-hunger. Whereas femininity typically contains qualities that makes you into a good human being, as well as submissiveness, selflessness - all in order to fully extract the energy and work of women for as little cost to men as possible.

All these traits are taught since birth.

Of course lesbians are drawn to each other by other factors than physical attraction and anatomy, we all are. it’s called preferences, and that’s no news. I don’t see how that proves gender is real and biological in any way. Being attracted to someone who’s caring and kind isn’t being attracted to a gender, we have just decided to label those characteristics as part of the feminine gender.

- Vixen

Jul 29, 2014
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Anonymous asked: (vixen): Do you think it is ironic that your name (vixen) is often used as the of a strip-club or stripper ? Also do you people consider actually changing the world to be even remotely realistic (in that only a extremely tiny group of people can be convinced of your dogma's and ideologies).

You managed to change the word “vixen” into being porn and misogyny related without putting up a fight, so surely change is possible. Just because you don’t want it doesn’t mean it can’t happen.

- Vixen

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